By Bill Behr

Regi Campbell is an Elder at Andy Stanley’s church in Alpharetta, Ga. (North Point Community Church).  Mr. Campbell’s blog, written specifically for men wanting to grow in their faith with Christ, is a favorite of mine, and his most recent blog, “The Thing vs. the Idea of the Thing,” had one statement that really hit me:

“(failed) expectations are premeditated resentments.”

Whoa! That is profound!  When I think about that, it has been often true in my life.  I have expectations for just about everything I do.

The resentment occurs when someone falls short of my expectations.

When I reflected back on my resentments and what I had been expecting, I realized that often my expectations came from my own selfish desires that I put ahead of others.  I was not patient enough to yield my desires to those of my neighbor’s.

Yes, there are reasonable and justifiable expectations.  But I am talking about the everyday decisions focus on my personal agenda.  How many resentments spring up each day because someone interrupted or interfered with my agenda?

Through God’s Word and through the teaching of Dignity Serves, I have learned that God created me, loves me and wants to me to share His love and grace with those who need it, especially the poor and forgotten who live among us.

God is the one who is changing my heart and challenging us all to yield our expectations to others every day.

As the Apostle Paul says in Philippians 2:3-5, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.  In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.”

Join me in the challenge to yield our interests to others. Watch God work in your life and in the lives of those you serve, by being the first to yield.

Bill Behr

Bill Behr

Bill Behr is the Associate Campus Minister of Summit @ 33rd St. and can be reached at 

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